Sex and mental health are closely linked. The way we feel about ourselves, our bodies, and our relationships can have a big impact on our emotional wellbeing. And in turn, our mental health can influence how we experience sex, desire, and intimacy. 

Whether you're feeling great or going through a tough time, it's okay to have questions or mixed feelings about sex and relationships. You're not alone and support is available. 

How Sex Can Affect Mental Health?

 

  • Positive experiences in sex and relationships can boost self-esteem, reduce stress, and increase feelings of connection and happiness. 

  • But if things feel confusing, pressured, or unsafe, it can lead to anxiety, low mood, or emotional distress. 

  • Feeling disconnected, ashamed, or unsure about your sexuality or identity can also take a toll on your mental health. 

How Mental Health Can Affect Sex 

 

  • Depression, anxiety, stress, and trauma can all affect libido (sex drive), interest in intimacy, or how your body responds. 

  • Some medications, including antidepressants, can impact sexual function or desire. 

  • Feeling mentally low or overwhelmed can make it harder to communicate needs or feel confident in your body. 

What Helps? 

 

  • Open communication with partners: talking about how you're feeling can ease pressure and build trust. 

  • Taking it at your own pace: there's no "right" time for anything, consent and comfort matter most. 

  • Looking after yourself: self-care, rest, and mental health support can improve your overall wellbeing, including how you feel about sex. 

  • Professional support: if you're struggling with mental health or trauma, speaking to a counsellor or sexual health professional can really help. 

Where to Get Support 

 

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, unsure, or need someone to talk to, here are some places that can help: 

  • Mind – Mental health support and resources 

  • Brook – Sexual health advice for young people 

  • Samaritans – Free, confidential 24/7 emotional support: 116 123 

Remember 

Your mental and sexual health are both important. It’s okay to have ups and downs, to ask questions, and to take time figuring things out. Respect, kindness (to yourself and others), and support make all the difference.